Rev 12:9 So the great dragon was cast out, that serpent of old, called the Devil and Satan, who deceives the whole world; he was cast to the earth, and his angels were cast out with him.
Ps 40:4 Blessed is that man that maketh the Lord his trust, and respecteth not the proud, nor such as turn aside to
lies.
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     All of the following are lies, accusations against me or another, that we may be telling ourselves on some
subconscious level. That’s the psychology of it. Perhaps more true is the reality that these are all things that the
devil is telling us and we may be unable to see through it and overcome it - until now. Nothing can be healed that
is not revealed. When brought out into the light, God can defeat the lies with the truth. I must look at each lie and
find God’s truth in it. When I aggressively work to defend every attack of these lies I am in reality defending
the devil. All of the emotion, mental stress, and physical and verbal effort I put in is nothing less than defending
the strongholds of Satan. To yield to this is then my becoming a representative, ambassador and witness for the
devil. I become a messenger of Satan! Until I find the truth of each lie I will continue to rehearse it in my mind.
Until I’m delivered from it these will continue to crop up at Satan’s will. Even though the lies may not come
verbally tumbling out to others in the moment, they will stir inside and prevent me from being an ambassador and messenger for Christ. Anointing will not come to the problem before me.

Things I may unconsciously be telling myself:
(I may know that none of this is true, but my subconscious is telling me all of this, and it is destroying me.)
Each lie is followed by a statement of truth.

I must do everything I can to guarantee that this loved one does what I think is best for them.
I am not the Convincer. Jesus would not argue and force His will on anyone.

I must make it known exactly what I think he should do and be.
I am not called to be his, or anyone’s God. People answer to God, not to man, even fathers, spouses or employees.
I have the right to judge him.
Rom 14:4 Who are you to judge another's servant? To his own master he stands or falls. Indeed, he will be made
to stand, for God is able to make him stand.

I have the responsibility to expect him to be everything he needs to be - perfect in my eyes.
Unrealistic expectations breed manipulation, despair, hopelessness and anger.

Based upon what I’ve seen, and I’m right, he’s going to fail.
I need to see him prophetically through the eyes of Jesus ability. Jude 24 Now to Him who is able to keep you
from stumbling, And to present you faultless Before the presence of His glory with exceeding joy,

He’s going to ruin another’s life.
We are all responsible for our own lives. Trust the convictions that you’ve built into your child.
Stop believing what the devil can do, and start believing what you’ve been praying for.

The world’s rubbing sin in my face and it’s not something that I can overcome.
You can do all things through Christ. You’ve done it before.

I will lose my spouse, child, best friend.
Satan is a thief, but God is greater.

They hate me already.
You don’t know what people are thinking. Stop believing things you don’t know more than things that you
do know.

It’s my responsibility to change him.
You didn’t die for him, create him, and don’t have the power to be his God. If you change him you have to be God
to him. It’s not your place to change anyone, so you’re not a failure when you don’t change others.

Because she/he can’t make right decisions it’s impossible for God to save her/him.
Right choices don’t save people. Paul made many wrong choices, as have you.

I have the right and the need to hold them to a higher standard than I have lived up to in my past.
People aren’t called to live where you are today. Don’t judge them by your position. You didn’t get there
overnight, but you can return to your Egypt if you keep judging others by your position.

Children will grow up ruined by their excessive discipline, anger and pride.
Out of the dysfunction of Jacob’s family God birthed Israel. He uses hardship to break us unto salvation.

They will never be where God wants them to be.
God is a God of hope. “Never” doesn’t belong in a Christian’s vocabulary. Hopelessness is the devil’s tool
to try to get you to destroy the faith of yourself and others. It breeds no godly evidence.

I can’t be happy unless I see all of my expectations met.
Happiness comes from God, not people. Faith is the substance of things hoped for that brings joy. Misplaced hopes are the things that bring sadness.

My family will probably lose any hope of eternity.
God loves people more than we do, and He is able to lead them through any valley. Since He has made them one,
His covenant with them will guarantee the power of His blessings always moving towards them.

If my child dies I will lose my mind because he/she is not walking with the Lord.
You can’t make other people’s eternity your God to rule your life. You will not be effectively used by God with
demonic lies motivating you.

I know that it’s my place to confront people.
You know what you want to know, often for your sake instead of others. So you confront them for your own
pain and justify it with your religious fears.

My friend/family member is filled with arrogant pride and it’s my place to let him know it and change them.
It may be true about him, and you. Learn not to let other’s shortcomings be a threat to you. Judging others
reveals the fear in you, as if God is not able to take care of you.

My family member is being abused, and can’t see it and buys into it. They will be ruined for life.
Your fears do not determine another’s destiny, but they can work to keep you from helping fulfill God’s plan.
You become a part of the problem instead of a part of the solution.

If they go away, and I don’t make my convictions known to stop them, I’ll blame myself if they get killed, addicted, or alienated her from our family.
The law in you will work to drive people away instead of stopping them. They know the truth and your love
and mercy will help more than anything to enable them to be honest.

I have to know that I’ve done my best to educate her/him on what they’re getting themselves into, because God can’t do it without my help.
If your life example over many years isn’t enough, nothing will change it now. God knows how to overcome any
parent’s/friends/spouses failures, and He holds others accountable to what He alone gives them.

God’s not really in control here.
You are coming face to face with your own unbelief, and this is healthy to admit. It’s easy to embrace His control
over others. Now acknowledge that God is able to maintain control around those you love.

I am a failure as a father/mother/husband/wife, pastor, and as a Christian.
You may have failed your expectations, but not God’s. What He has called you to do He is well able to perform
through you. This is your disappointment with your false hopes, not God’s.

If I could get away with it, I think I’d murder this person.
The real problem is not his pride, but your own. You’re not willing to bear the pain of loving him the way Jesus
bore the pain required to love you.

I think I may be trying to make up for what I consider to be failures in my life as a......
Personal guilt does rob us of power. You’ve been condemning yourself way too much, and it’s time to stop
second guessing God’s ability to help you.

Others decisions are going to be a disaster for everyone.
Whatever the devil means for evil, God means for good. The cross was man’s greatest disaster, and it became
God’s greatest gift.

They surely revert back to their old ways.
Everyone is tempted to go “back to Egypt.” Trust God to put the “Red Sea” between him and his past. When he
runs in fear, it will only be God showing him how to lead his enemies to their defeat.

He had a terrible past, so there’s no chance of being a good person.
God is able to do far above anything that we ask or think.

Their arrogance and disrespect for me means they are a total loser.
My feeling disrespected comes from drawing respect from the wrong source. God gives me respect by faith in Him.
Only by this mercy can I rightly judge another. My needs must be met by God and not expected from man, therefore I can look at someone with the prophetic eyes about what God can do in them.

If he/she can’t stop running their mouth it’s going to bring down everyone around them.
The destiny of another is not based upon what others do but upon their own internal integrity. Everyone must, and will, be tested to determine if they have God’s heart within them. It is impossible but that offences will come.

So & so doesn’t know how to live in right relationship with others and will talk their way into destroying my family.
God has promised to keep us from the destroyer. Ex 12:23 For the Lord will pass through to strike the Egyptians;
and when He sees the blood on the lintel and on the two doorposts, the Lord will pass over the door and not allow the destroyer to come into your houses to strike you.
John 10:10 The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life,
and that they might have it more abundantly.

I am better than he is. At least I have more respect and faith and wisdom in my life than him.
Paul said, “The love of Christ compels me, because I thus judge, that since Christ died for all, then were all dead.”
So I will judge myself and all others as dead and in need of the life giving Christ, whom I will dedicate my life to
represent.

I can’t tolerate their sinful life, for it will destroy my joy.
Jesus said, “I will give you a joy that no man can take from you.” You just don’t want to be inconvenienced and
accept the pain of truly loving someone. Your joy is not lost because of what others do but from you not staying
near God in honesty, humility and faith.

My joy rests in my child being and having only what I think they should have.
I can’t be God to my family or anyone. There is a time for everything, and I must be patient. Again, I must learn
to live in the joy of the Lord, not the joy of man. Only by this can I be used by God to give to my family what God
wants to give them. He must be in control, not me.

If I don’t lower the boom on my children and tell them what the truth is, they will never know.
There’s a difference between others needing to know the truth and my personal need for people to know what
truth I want them to know and when I want them to know it. Jesus said, “I have much to say to you, but you
are not ready for it yet.”

They have to know what I have suffered for them, or it won’t change anything.
Martyr complexions and martyr leadership is manipulation that wants people to change for us instead of for them.
The truth is that I need to know what Jesus has done for me and then live it out for others. You ultimately want
them to live for what God has done for them.

I am probably sick, losing my emotional sanity, and am close to a breakdown.
I will lose my emotional control and well being only if I refuse to look at the truth and humbly accept it as my
reality. The truth will set me free. It will not cause me to lose my sanity. The wisdom from above is pure,
peaceable and easy to be received. James 3.

I am slowly sliding into the place of total loss and destruction.
The lie here is that my present slide into bondage can’t be reversed. I must have the power to change instead of God being able to keep His Word to me. God knows the way out of my wilderness and is leading me.

I am paying for my years of secret sins, failures, and selfishness.
Jesus has delivered me from what the spiritual locust has eaten. He has delivered me from sin and its consequences.
The anointing that breaks the yoke is there because the yoke was one of my own making. Isa 10:27 It shall
come to pass in that day That his burden will be taken away from your shoulder, And his yoke from your neck, And the yoke will be destroyed because of the anointing oil.

I have so deeply blown it that I will never have a good relationship with my family.
Our children are to honor us by the fear of the Lord and not by our buying their friendship. Eli lost his sons for
failure to discipline them. Lack of discipline drives them away - not lack of loving boundaries. Each child must
come to their senses.

My failure in relationship is permanent.
When Jacob cheated his brother, he feared for his life. But God restored Esau’s heart. God constantly works to
repair broken, failed relationships. Don’t listen to the devil more than you listen to God. Permanent failure is a
demonic idea. To accept anything as permanent is to become a defender of Satan and his tactics.

God can’t help us overcome this, and He won’t keep us together.
This lie says that there are things with God that are hopeless. The word, hope, occurs 149 times, and hopeless
occurs once. In this one place in Jeremiah 18:12 it occurs because Israel said it is hopeless for us to obey God. We
will serve our idols. Jer. 17 says, cursed is the man who trusts in man; blessed is the man who hopes in the Lord.
The curse is forsaking the hope of God to restore. The blessing is in trust in the Lord.

God is not in control.
The very heart of the gospel is that God reigns. His Kingdom has come. Pain doesn’t mean He is unable, nor that
I am unable. Pain is the fire that burns away my impurities because God is in control.

If I can’t change this situation, since God can’t help either, nothing will work out.
God works to change the heart. We try to change the very circumstance that God is using to change the heart, and
we become enablers.

This is just another example of everyone’s criticism of me being right.
God allows us to be criticized for positive purposes, even though others may mean it for evil. Your heart, of
yourself, is far worse than anyone knows, but God’s purpose here is for you to learn to live by grace through faith.
Justifying yourself is your greatest enemy, as Job learned.
You are called to overcome criticism, not legitimize it by making others your judge and reacting to it. Feeling sorry for yourself is merely selfishness.

My children are not serving the Lord and pick worthless friends because of my failure to love them.
From Adam to Israel men have been choosing worthless lovers, not because God is an inadequate father, but because men’s nature is to turn to this world. You could’ve been a better parent, but you will never be a better parent by beating yourself up.

My family’s failures are because of my failure.
God said of the new covenant in Ezekiel, that the day will come when they will not be able to say, “Sour grapes.”
Each one will be accountable for their own sin because God has written His law upon our hearts. People do not go to heaven or hell because of their parents moral standing. God gives each person an equal chance.

My inner self talk is true, more true than God’s Word.
Our inner self talk comes from the devil or from God. Our part is in who we choose to listen to. One of our
biggest lies is believing that Satan’s, or our word has more integrity than God’s Word.

I am without hope, and so is my family.
We reap what we sow, undoubtedly. God will not made a fool of. However, God’s providence in allowing what
looks like hopelessness is Him subjecting us to futility that our human hopelessness would draw us to seek Him.
Rom 8:20-23 For the creation was subjected to futility, not willingly, but because of Him who subjected it in hope;
21 because the creation itself also will be delivered from the bondage of corruption into the glorious liberty of the children of God. 22 For we know that the whole creation groans and labors with birth pangs together until now.  He follows to say that, “All things work together for the good.”

My own sins are the reason that I can never overcome these accusations.
Continued present sin does compromise our faith. But God’s faithfulness is unwavering. We can not out sin His
grace. “Where remission of sins is, there is no more need for sacrifice.” Hebrews. Jesus does not have to come
and die for us all over again.

I must make known to them, for it’s all true.
To have a personal need to make known our judgements of others comes from the fear of our own needs for peace, joy and well being not being met.

They and I can’t be delivered from this until I am sure that they know everything that I know here.
There are things in the heart of others that God is well able and should be well trusted to handle without our
hindering interference. If I can’t minister to someone from a personal position of peace, then it is not a God thing
for me to butt in.

Once my sins and failures become visible to others I will forever be branded with my faults.
God can not overcome my branding in this world.
Who I am is not what my faults and sins are. Who I am is defined by what I do with my sins and faults. How
I handle them in the remedy for sin or with proud denial defines my true branding.

I am unable to overcome these convictions because I don’t spend enough time with God.
I am unable to overcome these convictions because I lack self awareness (light), and I lack an awareness of the
principles of God and how to apply them to my life. It’s not always about spending too little time with God.

The lies that I believe are greater than the truth of God’s Word.
Once I admit this I can recognize other truths such as, neither man nor demon has ever died for me. Nor has
either one created me nor promised to keep me. Why should I believe one who has never promised to love and
sustain me as God has?

God’s Word to me is not stronger than Satan’s lies to me.
“They overcame him because they loved not their lives unto death.” One reason why I have such trouble believing God’s Word over Satan’s is because Satan keeps telling me that I shouldn’t ever have to suffer affliction of any kind or it’s unbelief. When my flesh refuses to accept the cross of dying to self I lose the ability to believe God as the disciples did before they were allowed to be sifted when Jesus was crucified.

God’s Word to me is dependant upon my ability.
My part is to walk in truth and honest humility. God’s part is to make himself believable. He is the Author of faith,
not me. Faith is not my ability to figure out how things will work out. It is my willingness to put my hand in His
in the dark. “And the Light shined in the darkness.”

In all of my attacks and assaults of these lies, I must defend myself.
One reason we defend ourselves is that we really don’t want to fully live for Jesus, and we need to admit it and say it. King Ahaz in Is. 7 wouldn’t ask for a sign from God because he didn’t want to live for Him. Isaiah declared,
“If you don’t stand in your faith, you won’t stand at all.”

The fear of all of these things coming to pass is too great for me to visit. I can’t bring this out.
God will never ask you to bring out any fear you have but that He has already given you the revelation strength that you need to overcome it. You are more than a conqueror through Christ who died for you.

Isa 44:3-9 For I will pour water upon him that is thirsty, and floods upon the dry ground: I will pour my spirit upon thy seed, and my blessing upon thine offspring:
8 Fear ye not, neither be afraid: have not I told thee from that time, and have declared it? ye are even my witnesses.  Is there a God beside me? yea, there is no God; I know not any.
9 They that make a graven image are all of them vanity; and their delectable things shall not profit; and they are their own witnesses; they see not, nor know; that they may be ashamed.
Isa 44:20 He feedeth on ashes: a deceived heart hath turned him aside, that he cannot deliver his soul, nor say, Is
there not a lie in my right hand?
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       We can say, “They’re really going to have a hard time if they don’t....” And then you say you’re going to
turn it over to God and pray about it. Pray about what? The lie that we may be believing? Start with the truth
and pray that. Turn that over to God. Pray believing the truth of God’s experience more than the truth about your
past experience.​​